The magic of manly protection amounts to only allowing people into your circle who bring sufficient or equal value.
Therein lies the crux.
If you have a 1950's beta provider mentality, you're unlikely to perceive "value" in anything other than a federally guaranteed lifetime marriage.
Whereas society has moved on to a more granulated/prorated system of partial payment for partial wifery or temporary marriage.
At this point we're not complaining about the service, we're just haggling over the price.