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    [ This thread is about love and a relationship, but not a romantic relationship, but one between parent and child and the fruits of a romantic relationship (the child, thus) ]

    Background (skip this part for the ''main'' part, this is just giving a background on why I prefer my child to be a girl):

    Being born a boy who was "different" I had always been used to being treated as less, coming from both African and European parents I have experienced some racism living in a rural part of Europe, though in this day and age it's getting less and less I keep hearing complaints from non-whites about discrimination, at a very young age I saw that most victims of this racism were males, and that in general society dislikes boys, growing up as a boy whenever I went to the ''boy's toys'' section in children's stores I noticed that there were less toys for boys, and often gender neutral toys were the rule anyhow (something I prefer), thankfully for myself I loved playing with ''girl's toys'' as well as ''boy's toys'', and from the age of 4 I hated being a boy, I wished every night that I would wake up a girl, I watched girl shows, was jealous of their power in my schools (something I've gone over and complained too many times in details to go over again, the same with misandry in the media), life for a girl was simply better, everyone kowtowed at your every wish, I knew this and I was jealous of their power, honestly if I had a choice this day I'd still choose to become a woman, but that's another story.

    Growing up seeing misandry everywhere, I grew up chained to a TV as we moved all the time I managed to keep few friends, I was a very sociable kid but before the age of 8 I had less friends wherever new I ended up, so often I just stayed at home and obsessively watched TV, TV taught me that men were all stupid, evil, incompetent, and inferior to females in every way possible, I can't recall the last time I saw a female character lose to a male one, it's probably one of the more recent advertisements I saw as an adult, thankfully the misandry is toning down, and thanks to the internet nothing remains unscrutinised, but when I grew up I was isolated from others, I grew up believing that I was the sole person on this planet who could recognise misandry, and that it was the norm for everyone else, thanks to one of Dr. Warren Farrell's books I had thankfully learned that I wasn't the only person in this world who could spot misandry, up until that point I had considered myself a ''Feminist'' because I really didn't know that gender equality was the antonym and not the synonym of ''Feminism'', and I would harm my own ''male parts'' or a near daily basis until it would bleed because of my shame for being born male, I was so ashamed for something I had no choice at, and I was angry at the world for making me this ''male monster'', because of the self-harm I had inflicted on myself I had believed that I would never reproduce, despite my biggest dream from being the age of 6 becoming a father... well...

    today:

    Unexpected to me my girlfriend would actually get pregnant, I attempted to and I had finally managed to, well it happened in a single month and I'm just so happy that my dream is finally coming true, I wanted to be a sperm donor not long ago but was afraid that I was infertile and was afraid to hear that so I never solicited, this news rocked my world. But then I had a conversation with the future mother of my child she said that she prefered a boy, something I had hoped would not happen, personally I had hoped for a girl, though thanks to the internet misandry is something that can be avoided to a larger extend than I who grew up during the height of the television age I still think that we (as the Greater Men's Movement) haven't accomplished enough of our goals to bear another boy to this world, at least one of my boys.

    When I was born my mother demanded me to be mutila... circumcised, as she came from a Black Jewish family from Latin-America no doctor had ever said ''no'' to this horrendous act, thankfully here in Europe the doctor who was supposed to ''cut'' me denied because of ethical reasons, to this day my mother wants me to become ''cleaner'', living in my family not an hour goes by that my mother doesn't make a sexist remark against men, my elder sister (who despite being quite masculine and claims to want to be a man) also makes non-stop anti-male remarks, again not an environment I want to raise any male children in, though thankfully the mother is from a country where circumcision is practically unheard of (she was surprised that people even did that to baby boys when I told my fiancée) and because of Socialism there are (slightly) less misandric rules in place (for example I had seen more female construction workers in a single site in Hanoi than I had in the entire Western World, and I've travelled across Europe, to North- and South-America and had only seen 3 female construction workers there, I saw more in one day in Hanoi, Vietnam).

    Now let me sum up the discriminations I wish my sons to avoid:

    When I grew up I was diagnosed with various different forms of Autism (for some reason no psychiatrist could ever diagnose me properly, and whenever I went to another one I was diagnosed with something worse), as an Autist I was put in schools with little girls that were basically segregated societies that favoured girls (a good model for how the real world functions, B.T.W.) despite a bulk of the female students being less intelligent than most male ones, they passed even if they had horrible grades, meanwhile a close friend of mine who never got into any trouble was sent to another school (he has no degree in ANYTHING because of that now) because his grades were low (still higher than that of our one female student).

    Television is still a thing, even if you don't own a television box it gets streamed to the internet now, and the sexism that lived on the televisions of my youth breed exponentially on the internet, and Hubs like Tumblr, as well as lots of Facebook, Twitter, and various other outlets, I remember being on a meeting site to exchange stories that some Scottish-born Pakistani misandrist doctor student approached me, she seemed like a down to earth person and quite intelligent... if she didn't say something sexist about blokes every other sentence, and the sexist advertisements of yesterday now come during YouTube and Daily Motion videos.

    Gender quota's in the west are actually getting worse, I'm a Microsoft fanboy, despite a lot of things, they keep discontinuing the best services, they treat the users of their own ecosystem as second class citizens, Microsoft employees had mistreated me for no reason in public transport and in public places, and Microsoft had banned an account for simply not having a phone number, despite all of that I remain a loyal fanboy but then I see how much they kowtow to Twitter Feminists and how they love to support girl-only scholarships and ''teach girls to code'' initiatives, and the irony of this world? they're still seen as misogynists by today's standards... I love Germany too, in fact sometimes I think about going across the border and becoming a German as I'm so sick of my country, but not too long ago they wanted to create a law that was extremely sexist towards all males, I simply don't want to raise a child in a country like that.

    In my family enviroment literally EVERY conversation turns into an argument, it may not be a societal wide issue, but the way arguments are settled are, for the virtue of being born female almost every form of media teaches ''the woman is always right'', this is something I had thrown at my face nearly daily when I argued with females, today I just avoid arguments with non-familiar ones altogether as most I run into clearly are closed- and narrow-minded and arguing with these misandrists is like playing chess with a dove.

    Literally while writing this I had an argument with my mother about how rapes in the world aren't as common as the media portray them, she keeps on insisting that it's safer for a man to go anywhere despite the higher murder rates, when I pointed out that over 90% of the rape reports in New Delhi turned out to be false she started claiming that the blokes bribed them, when I pointed out to her (who keeps insisting that black people are being oppressed) that the lynching of black American men and boys she suddenly started to defend the white women and people in general who loved to lynch the blacks she would in EVERY other conversation defend, she basically does 2 things all day long watch television and ''scream'' at someone on the telephone (that's how her language sounds), and the more television someone watches, the more misandric they'll become (an observation I saw... let's call it Hong's Law, LOL).

    Schools openly discriminate against boys, I mentioned this above but also post-graduation, I was sent to a school which didn't allow me for 2 years because I was ''too young'' (I was already one of the oldest students when I was allowed to enter in my class), meanwhile I graduated early from my previous school, I had one of the highest grades and later got a few certificates in a higher grade of education online, I hated the online classes so I applied to more schools, I kept getting denied because I was ''scary for girls'', and ''female teachers are intimidated by you'', as a child who never had a girlfriend I kept getting obsessed with every female that came into my class (never more than 2, and at only my last year where there 4), so mostly I had tried to ''seduce'' the middle-aged fat teachers who would punish me for simply giving compliments.

    Because of my isolation and self-hate I had never managed to get a girlfriend, and if it weren't for the legal status of prostitution in the Netherlands I had become Elliot Rodgers, and if it wasn't for the internet I would've probably become a whore-mongerer for the rest of my life. I don't want my sons to grow up in ANY of the same things I had grown up, loneliness has driven me to suicide for most of my life and I basically ''lived to die'' (I was basically just ''waiting for death'' every day of my life until I had heard that my partner was pregnant).

    Though thanks to the internet they can meet girls via websites, but I don't want my sons to grow up thinking that their only value in life could be confirmed by girls, but that's how society works so no matter how much I'd ram that in their heads society will unleash a force heavier than the hammer of Thor.

    Conclusions:

    Though I omitted over 99% of the misandry I see EVERY DAY in life above, I can't help but hope that my child is going to be a girl, I just want a child to grow up without having to worry about REAL sexism, girls today have the luxury to complain about ''the oppressive patriarchal air-conditioning'' while the media that had turned my environment toxic and is one of the core evils I wish to eliminate is considered ''trivial'' by the Men's (Human) Rights Movement because at present there are so many other issues men and boys face that it probably won't be on their agenda for many years to come (maybe even decades), because of this I will probably remain a radical M.(H.)R.A. for the rest of my life, and because of this I can't possible think of a scenario where I'd want to raise a boy in this environment, as a child I thought that if someone saw my sufferings and would see me cry because of the problems I faced that someone might help me, this is basic human instinct and up until a century ago people also cared for the tears of boys, but again and again I had learned whenever I was in pain the sight of me would become more funnier than the funniest comedian in the world, my tears were like a clown to the eyes of strangers, if I ever needed help I had learned I can't depend on anyone else, I remember when my physically abusive mother threw a closet across the room and threatened to kill me, I ran away and went to a neighbour, he denied me access, when I begged him to call the police he turned profane and told me to go away or he would let his dog kill me before my mother would, this is the environment I grew up in.

    I equate my value to my status to women not because I want to, but because again and again my head was stomped into the ground because no-one valued me for who I was, and as an adult man today I'm merely a human-doing, as long as society is this apathetic towards men and boys I simply don't want to raise a boy in a world like this, am I the only M.(H.)R.A. who thinks like this? Does anyone else prefer girls because of all the misandry?

    I mean I would like grand-sons... just no sons...

  • #2
    Originally posted by MarioHong View Post
    [ This thread is about love and a relationship, but not a romantic relationship, but one between parent and child and the fruits of a romantic relationship (the child, thus) ]

    Background (skip this part for the ''main'' part, this is just giving a background on why I prefer my child to be a girl):

    Being born a boy who was "different" I had always been used to being treated as less, coming from both African and European parents I have experienced some racism living in a rural part of Europe, though in this day and age it's getting less and less I keep hearing complaints from non-whites about discrimination, at a very young age I saw that most victims of this racism were males, and that in general society dislikes boys, growing up as a boy whenever I went to the ''boy's toys'' section in children's stores I noticed that there were less toys for boys, and often gender neutral toys were the rule anyhow (something I prefer), thankfully for myself I loved playing with ''girl's toys'' as well as ''boy's toys'', and from the age of 4 I hated being a boy, I wished every night that I would wake up a girl, I watched girl shows, was jealous of their power in my schools (something I've gone over and complained too many times in details to go over again, the same with misandry in the media), life for a girl was simply better, everyone kowtowed at your every wish, I knew this and I was jealous of their power, honestly if I had a choice this day I'd still choose to become a woman, but that's another story.

    Growing up seeing misandry everywhere, I grew up chained to a TV as we moved all the time I managed to keep few friends, I was a very sociable kid but before the age of 8 I had less friends wherever new I ended up, so often I just stayed at home and obsessively watched TV, TV taught me that men were all stupid, evil, incompetent, and inferior to females in every way possible, I can't recall the last time I saw a female character lose to a male one, it's probably one of the more recent advertisements I saw as an adult, thankfully the misandry is toning down, and thanks to the internet nothing remains unscrutinised, but when I grew up I was isolated from others, I grew up believing that I was the sole person on this planet who could recognise misandry, and that it was the norm for everyone else, thanks to one of Dr. Warren Farrell's books I had thankfully learned that I wasn't the only person in this world who could spot misandry, up until that point I had considered myself a ''Feminist'' because I really didn't know that gender equality was the antonym and not the synonym of ''Feminism'', and I would harm my own ''male parts'' or a near daily basis until it would bleed because of my shame for being born male, I was so ashamed for something I had no choice at, and I was angry at the world for making me this ''male monster'', because of the self-harm I had inflicted on myself I had believed that I would never reproduce, despite my biggest dream from being the age of 6 becoming a father... well...

    today:

    Unexpected to me my girlfriend would actually get pregnant, I attempted to and I had finally managed to, well it happened in a single month and I'm just so happy that my dream is finally coming true, I wanted to be a sperm donor not long ago but was afraid that I was infertile and was afraid to hear that so I never solicited, this news rocked my world. But then I had a conversation with the future mother of my child she said that she prefered a boy, something I had hoped would not happen, personally I had hoped for a girl, though thanks to the internet misandry is something that can be avoided to a larger extend than I who grew up during the height of the television age I still think that we (as the Greater Men's Movement) haven't accomplished enough of our goals to bear another boy to this world, at least one of my boys.

    When I was born my mother demanded me to be mutila... circumcised, as she came from a Black Jewish family from Latin-America no doctor had ever said ''no'' to this horrendous act, thankfully here in Europe the doctor who was supposed to ''cut'' me denied because of ethical reasons, to this day my mother wants me to become ''cleaner'', living in my family not an hour goes by that my mother doesn't make a sexist remark against men, my elder sister (who despite being quite masculine and claims to want to be a man) also makes non-stop anti-male remarks, again not an environment I want to raise any male children in, though thankfully the mother is from a country where circumcision is practically unheard of (she was surprised that people even did that to baby boys when I told my fiancée) and because of Socialism there are (slightly) less misandric rules in place (for example I had seen more female construction workers in a single site in Hanoi than I had in the entire Western World, and I've travelled across Europe, to North- and South-America and had only seen 3 female construction workers there, I saw more in one day in Hanoi, Vietnam).

    Now let me sum up the discriminations I wish my sons to avoid:

    When I grew up I was diagnosed with various different forms of Autism (for some reason no psychiatrist could ever diagnose me properly, and whenever I went to another one I was diagnosed with something worse), as an Autist I was put in schools with little girls that were basically segregated societies that favoured girls (a good model for how the real world functions, B.T.W.) despite a bulk of the female students being less intelligent than most male ones, they passed even if they had horrible grades, meanwhile a close friend of mine who never got into any trouble was sent to another school (he has no degree in ANYTHING because of that now) because his grades were low (still higher than that of our one female student).

    Television is still a thing, even if you don't own a television box it gets streamed to the internet now, and the sexism that lived on the televisions of my youth breed exponentially on the internet, and Hubs like Tumblr, as well as lots of Facebook, Twitter, and various other outlets, I remember being on a meeting site to exchange stories that some Scottish-born Pakistani misandrist doctor student approached me, she seemed like a down to earth person and quite intelligent... if she didn't say something sexist about blokes every other sentence, and the sexist advertisements of yesterday now come during YouTube and Daily Motion videos.

    Gender quota's in the west are actually getting worse, I'm a Microsoft fanboy, despite a lot of things, they keep discontinuing the best services, they treat the users of their own ecosystem as second class citizens, Microsoft employees had mistreated me for no reason in public transport and in public places, and Microsoft had banned an account for simply not having a phone number, despite all of that I remain a loyal fanboy but then I see how much they kowtow to Twitter Feminists and how they love to support girl-only scholarships and ''teach girls to code'' initiatives, and the irony of this world? they're still seen as misogynists by today's standards... I love Germany too, in fact sometimes I think about going across the border and becoming a German as I'm so sick of my country, but not too long ago they wanted to create a law that was extremely sexist towards all males, I simply don't want to raise a child in a country like that.

    In my family enviroment literally EVERY conversation turns into an argument, it may not be a societal wide issue, but the way arguments are settled are, for the virtue of being born female almost every form of media teaches ''the woman is always right'', this is something I had thrown at my face nearly daily when I argued with females, today I just avoid arguments with non-familiar ones altogether as most I run into clearly are closed- and narrow-minded and arguing with these misandrists is like playing chess with a dove.

    Literally while writing this I had an argument with my mother about how rapes in the world aren't as common as the media portray them, she keeps on insisting that it's safer for a man to go anywhere despite the higher murder rates, when I pointed out that over 90% of the rape reports in New Delhi turned out to be false she started claiming that the blokes bribed them, when I pointed out to her (who keeps insisting that black people are being oppressed) that the lynching of black American men and boys she suddenly started to defend the white women and people in general who loved to lynch the blacks she would in EVERY other conversation defend, she basically does 2 things all day long watch television and ''scream'' at someone on the telephone (that's how her language sounds), and the more television someone watches, the more misandric they'll become (an observation I saw... let's call it Hong's Law, LOL).

    Schools openly discriminate against boys, I mentioned this above but also post-graduation, I was sent to a school which didn't allow me for 2 years because I was ''too young'' (I was already one of the oldest students when I was allowed to enter in my class), meanwhile I graduated early from my previous school, I had one of the highest grades and later got a few certificates in a higher grade of education online, I hated the online classes so I applied to more schools, I kept getting denied because I was ''scary for girls'', and ''female teachers are intimidated by you'', as a child who never had a girlfriend I kept getting obsessed with every female that came into my class (never more than 2, and at only my last year where there 4), so mostly I had tried to ''seduce'' the middle-aged fat teachers who would punish me for simply giving compliments.

    Because of my isolation and self-hate I had never managed to get a girlfriend, and if it weren't for the legal status of prostitution in the Netherlands I had become Elliot Rodgers, and if it wasn't for the internet I would've probably become a whore-mongerer for the rest of my life. I don't want my sons to grow up in ANY of the same things I had grown up, loneliness has driven me to suicide for most of my life and I basically ''lived to die'' (I was basically just ''waiting for death'' every day of my life until I had heard that my partner was pregnant).

    Though thanks to the internet they can meet girls via websites, but I don't want my sons to grow up thinking that their only value in life could be confirmed by girls, but that's how society works so no matter how much I'd ram that in their heads society will unleash a force heavier than the hammer of Thor.

    Conclusions:

    Though I omitted over 99% of the misandry I see EVERY DAY in life above, I can't help but hope that my child is going to be a girl, I just want a child to grow up without having to worry about REAL sexism, girls today have the luxury to complain about ''the oppressive patriarchal air-conditioning'' while the media that had turned my environment toxic and is one of the core evils I wish to eliminate is considered ''trivial'' by the Men's (Human) Rights Movement because at present there are so many other issues men and boys face that it probably won't be on their agenda for many years to come (maybe even decades), because of this I will probably remain a radical M.(H.)R.A. for the rest of my life, and because of this I can't possible think of a scenario where I'd want to raise a boy in this environment, as a child I thought that if someone saw my sufferings and would see me cry because of the problems I faced that someone might help me, this is basic human instinct and up until a century ago people also cared for the tears of boys, but again and again I had learned whenever I was in pain the sight of me would become more funnier than the funniest comedian in the world, my tears were like a clown to the eyes of strangers, if I ever needed help I had learned I can't depend on anyone else, I remember when my physically abusive mother threw a closet across the room and threatened to kill me, I ran away and went to a neighbour, he denied me access, when I begged him to call the police he turned profane and told me to go away or he would let his dog kill me before my mother would, this is the environment I grew up in.

    I equate my value to my status to women not because I want to, but because again and again my head was stomped into the ground because no-one valued me for who I was, and as an adult man today I'm merely a human-doing, as long as society is this apathetic towards men and boys I simply don't want to raise a boy in a world like this, am I the only M.(H.)R.A. who thinks like this? Does anyone else prefer girls because of all the misandry?

    I mean I would like grand-sons... just no sons...
    No, it's just logical, of course you want the best for your child, and of course you see that, as a woman, your child would get better treatment.
    I sexually identify as a sword pommel, check your privilege or i will have to end you RIGHTLY.

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    • #3
      Bad? Yes... But only because of the things that were done to you. Not because you carry that opinion as a result...
      No one can blame you. And your logic does have a point.

      However... You can do better. If your kid becomes a boy, guard against sexism in the family. Take him to places where he can be himself independent of the color or genitals he happens to have.

      So I get that you're hoping he becomes a girl. But don't be sad if he becomes a boy. Instead do the daddy thing and guard him, show him it's awesome to be a man. Teach him his masculine power. And teach him to reject the women who would denounce men as women who have never encountered true masculinity...

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